We’ve all been there, we all dread it, hate it, and wonder how we are ever going to get through it. Many of us deal with it at some point in time, husbands traveling for work/play, being out of town, out of reach, and some more than others. In our house we go daddy-less a few days every month and weeks at a time throughout the year. Its tough being the only caretaker and not having that person to tag team with and rely on, or even be able to reach on the phone to just let out a rant. I wouldn’t say we’ve gotten used to it, but we have gotten a lot better at managing it. I’m sharing a few tips that I’ve learned along the way that have helped me deal with those “solo parent” times.
Organization/Preparation- I’m a plan ahead kind of gal. I have to know what’s going on, when and where, and what’s expected of me. It can’t always happen but having a fridge stocked, laundry somewhat done, and the house tended to before he leaves has helped me feel more at ease.
Keep yourself and kids busy- My kids are 5 and 3 and I can’t tell you how bad the weekends drag if we don’t have things to occupy our time. Plan play dates, RSVP yes to those birthday parties, visit family. Our days tend to go better when we have at least one big activity planned and we get outside of the house. Some days just consist of playing out back or trips to every moms dreamland Target!! With this nice weather and summer fast approaching, get outside and get your tan on while the kids play.
Adult interaction- I’m sure this goes for everyone but when your kids are the only interaction you’ve had all day you can go a little crazy. If your not able to visit with family or friends, make those phone calls. Talking with your best friend or having a good conversation with your mom who is miles away is good for the soul, and helps you feel like you’re not alone.
Lower your expectations- I love a good clean house and cutely set up activities, I thrive on structure. But when you’re playing mommy and daddy for any extended period of time, some rules or expectations go out the window. Not every meal will be gourmet, the house may be a mess, and bedtime routines, well what is that? Just do your best and thats all any mom can do. The kids are alive and happy and thats a win!
Mommy time- You need to recharge and take breaks sometimes. I’m a better mom when I take the time for myself every now and then. Once the kids are in bed, grab a drink, your favorite book, and take a bubble bath. Netflix and chill? Haha no but really get some snacks and binge watch a series- Pretty Little Liars (guilty pleasure). Do a DIY mani/pedi or invite a friend over for coffee and girl talk. Pamper yourself and relax. You’ll be ready to tackle the next day or week.
Once you’ve made it out the other side with everyone alive, let the kids have some catch up and bonding time with dad while you hit up some solo Target shopping with an iced coffee in hand. I know I will.
How do you manage your time when you are flying solo?