Rip the Bandaid off and just go.
Sounds easy, right?! Well, it’s not. Leaving our daughter overnight for the first time came with tears, days of preparation and lots of anxiety.
I never thought I’d be so attached to her like this, but I am. I love her more than anything and in a way I’ve never loved anyone else. So when it finally came time for our first overnight without her, I wasn’t ready.
But the thing is, I will never be ready.
I won’t be ready when she goes to kindergarten. I won’t be ready when she has her first sleepover. I won’t be ready when I kiss her goodbye after dropping her off at college. If anything, it’s going to get worse as time continues to slip away.
As much as I want to be here for her every step of the way, I also know it’s healthy for both of us to have those breaks and experiences apart. It creates boundaries and independence for her. She will learn to be comfortable staying with her grandparents (and that it gets her spoiled!). She will start to do things for herself and on her own instead of relying on momma to do them. She will be able to see her parents taking time to spend with each other to create a healthy marriage and family life.
For me, the time apart will help me to let go of needing to feel in control of everything all the time. I often plan with the details all laid out only to have it thrown to the wayside when something unexpected pops up. It will also help me to be a better friend and wife. I’m sure we can all relate to saying ‘no’ to events where taking kids is going to be a challenge or when we feel like it’s easier to stay in instead of reconnecting with friends. I also know dedicated one-on-one time with my husband enables us to strengthen our relationship.
Overall, time away will benefit all parties involved. It won’t always be easy, but it’s only temporary. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder and it couldn’t be more true. I look forward to walking through the door and seeing that sweet little girl of mine.