True Life: I don’t trust anyone to watch my kids.

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I have separation anxiety. 

I suppose the first step is admitting this. I have separation anxiety from my child. It has progressively gotten better over time, and I hope that it will continue to get better, but I am currently stuck in a rut. 

I often hear stories of people who go out on long romantic dates with their husbands, or even take a vacation without their children and I have truly not been able to comprehend how. HOW do you trust someone enough to be with your kid(s) for that amount of time? 

I Don't Trust Anyone to Watch My Kids | East Valley Moms BlogWhen I had my daughter, I stayed home with her for a year. It was what was best for our family at the time, and I will say that going back to work has been a huge adjustment for me. It has forced me to deal with my separation anxiety. However, it is still there. When I am not home, I worry constantly. I know that all parents worry about their children, but I also know that most parents let people watch their children. We are very blessed that my daughter only goes to childcare two days a week, and that we have someone I have learned to trust care for her.

Here is my problem: When I am not working, I don’t ever want to ask anyone to watch my daughter. What is the point? I can bring her with me, or just not go. I feel that every second I am not working I should be with her.

I think about people in my life who I could potentially let watch my daughter, and then think of reasons why they shouldn’t. I know that is wrong, and I will never get to do certain things because of this. But I truly do not know how to get past it. 

I wish I could end with advice for others who feel like me, I wish that I could provide some sort of support. In the end, all I can offer is my ear to listen to those who feel like me. 

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Ashley Lessard
Ashley is Disney-Obsessed Momma to 2 adorable little ones (Charlotte & John) who are both in their toddler years. She has two fun and lovable rescue pups, and an amazing husband whom she first met in second grade. Together they all enjoy hiking and supporting small local businesses. In her free time Ashley is a basic mom who, like most, enjoys Target, coffee, and wine! She also enjoys traveling to Disneyland and eating Pineapple Dole Whip frequently. She loves eating all things sweet, and loves the rain! She is a HUGE fan of watching Disney movies and drinking iced coffee year round. It’s never too cold for iced coffee, seriously, she drinks it in the snow. Ashley’s perfect day (besides a day spent in Disneyland) would be snuggling on the couch watching a Disney movie with a great cup of iced coffee, and the door open to the rain outside!

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