I’m going to start by being totally transparent, after all, that’s how you’ll get to know me best! I had no clue what to write for my first post. I’m not a fitness junkie, a super-crafty DIY’er, an uber-creative and stylish person, and the fact that I always have ketchup in the fridge should indicate that I’m probably not the best cook out there (ketchup covers everything!). What am I? I’m mom.
When I left the professional world after having my fist son, I really struggled with my identity. So much of what we’re taught to value is our careers, and as a mid-20 something, I really worked hard to be good at mine. Then this innocent little boy was placed in my arms and for me, going back to the professional world wasn’t an option anymore. So there I was. Thrust into this new world of being a parent, all while saying good-bye to the old me. I was desperate to not become “just a mom”. I wanted to be this generations version of June Cleaver. You know, the enviable Pinterest-worthy mom who seems to have it all together. Sparkling house cleaned with all-natural-homemade-chemical free cleaners, clean and happy child, freshly made-up face with amazing hair, a cute outfit made from recycled pillowcases and curtains, and dinner made from only organic locally grown produce that equally represents all components of this years food pyramid. Yeah, I could do that!
I’m not going to be “just a mom”; I’m going to be THE mom. It’s hard to even type that without laughing. Having one kid was rough while attempting just one thing on that list. Add a second one in the mix and you get a special sort of crazy!
If I’m going to be totally honest, there are days my child eats cereal for dinner (Why aren’t there “pins” about how clever adding blueberries AND bananas to Cheerois is?) . There are days when I don’t eat dinner until 9:30 at night and both kids are sleeping for at least 5 minutes. There are days when by the time Polish Prince gets home from work I’m happy to just have all three of us still alive. And you know what, that’s ok. That’s reality. If there’s one thing I’ve learned since becoming a parent it’s that it’s okay to slow down. Simple as that, slow down. Time will not, your child will not, but you can. Enjoy those 5 minutes of peace you find when the house is quiet and before you start to worry about what your toddler is getting into that’s making him so quiet. Enjoy those 5 minutes where one baby is sleeping and you get to have undivided attention time with the other. Enjoy those 5 minutes in the morning when you’re snuggled up with both babies before the rush of the day begins, and enjoy those 5 minutes at the end of the day when you can take a deep breath and say we made it through another one.
I promise going forward that I’ll discuss more about natural parenting and attachment-style parenting, give tips about cloth diapers, share more about my family and my children, but for today I’m giving you a gentle reminder to slow down. Be THE mom for your children. Life only comes around once, enjoy it while you can!
This post is sponsored by:
The Brett Saks Foundation, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit, hopes to make our Arizona communities safer for bicyclists by teaching adults and children about road safety and mutual respect between drivers and cyclists in fun and engaging ways. We are “Shifting Gears to Saves Lives,” as more than 600 cyclists are lost each year to car-bike accidents. Learn more at gearupaz.org.