I had a baby, but I’m still me

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When you have a baby there are two types of people in your life:

The first group, thinks nothing has changed. Still curses around your toddler, and doesn’t understand why you don’t want to go to the club on a Saturday night. 

The second group, thinks everything has changed. They won’t invite you to ANYTHING now and they assume you’re just too busy since having a baby. They assume you no longer enjoy a night out or a glass of something delicious. 

The truth though, lies somewhere in between. I’m still me, I still enjoy all the little things and still want to see my friends. I still like all the same things I used to, I just do them a tad less. No, I don’t want to go out every single weekend, but the truth is I still want to go out see you on special occasions and celebrate your birthday. 

But let’s talk about that second group:

Being mom has definitely changed me, I’m not trying to hide that. I’m a different person. However, not getting an invite to celebrate you (whether it was your job promotion, new home, or birthday) just flat out hurts. I’m still your friend. I still care about you deeply. I still want to go out and celebrate with you. 

I still want to get texts and phone calls from you, and updates on your life- don’t just write me off because I had a baby. 

Both of these groups of people are super frustrating, lets face it. 

Luckily, I’ve found that this phase is temporary. People will remember that you are still you- they’ll go back to inviting you to events and texting you more than once a month. This newborn phase can be isolating and overwhelming no matter how many kids you have. Those first few weeks everyone wants to meet your baby and bring you food/gifts. The next 8-12 weeks are pretty isolating. Everyone already saw your baby and they don’t want to “bother” you. 

Soon, everything and everyone will go back to normal (or a new normal) and you’ll start to feel like yourself again. 

If you’re in that newborn funk with no friends, call me or send me a message. I know that you’re still you, and you still want your friends. I’m always happy to help. 

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Ashley Lessard
Ashley is Disney-Obsessed Momma to 2 adorable little ones (Charlotte & John) who are both in their toddler years. She has two fun and lovable rescue pups, and an amazing husband whom she first met in second grade. Together they all enjoy hiking and supporting small local businesses. In her free time Ashley is a basic mom who, like most, enjoys Target, coffee, and wine! She also enjoys traveling to Disneyland and eating Pineapple Dole Whip frequently. She loves eating all things sweet, and loves the rain! She is a HUGE fan of watching Disney movies and drinking iced coffee year round. It’s never too cold for iced coffee, seriously, she drinks it in the snow. Ashley’s perfect day (besides a day spent in Disneyland) would be snuggling on the couch watching a Disney movie with a great cup of iced coffee, and the door open to the rain outside!

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