I recently read a blog post that cheered the women who shattered glass ceilings and “escaped” the confines of traditional gender roles. I am one hundred percent on board with women choosing their own path in life and being on an equal playing field with men. To me that’s part of the American Dream.
With that, I had a hard time with the words I was reading. You see, I’m a stay at home mom, a house wife, a homemaker…whatever you want to call it, we embrace traditional gender roles in my house. It’s a choice my husband and I made together and frankly, I don’t need to be rescued from it.
Sure, some days I could definitely use an escape from the laundry, cleaning, cooking and overall juggling of familial responsibilities that fall on my plate, but when I worked I longed for time away from my office, too. I think no matter where you spend the majority of your day, a break is always welcomed. My office just happens to be my home so taking a break often requires me leaving my home.
These days I might be in the minority, but I enjoy sending my husband off to work with a shirt that I ironed and a cup of coffee that I made. Once I kiss him goodbye and turn around to tackle the day, I love that I have two little people looking up at me like I’m the cruise director ready to announce the day’s itinerary. Groceries, Target trips, bills, doctors appointments, you name it- I’m in charge. I’m preschool drop off and pick up and the lunch maker. My husband can go to work and not have to worry about any of the responsibilities at home while he’s there. He doesn’t have to take off for sick kids or school drop off and it works for us.
During the week, dinner is usually on the table by 6PM. Unlike the housewives of the past we saw on television, I’m not in heels and we both tackle the clean up. We even share the kids’ bedtime routine, too. My kids have mom at home all day and two parents working together at night.
The beauty of these modern times is just about anything goes. Women are celebrated for their achievements outside the home and parenting is now expected to be a shared responsibility. I can leave for the weekend and not worry about the kids because their dad can handle it. Eventually I’ll re-enter the workforce and our family dynamic will change, but for now it’s working for us.
I am always going to boost up the fellow mother who works outside the home, part time, single moms and stay at home moms like me. I just want them to know that those of us at home don’t need to be rescued, we like it here.