3 Local Families Share How they Navigate the Sex Talk

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We’re sharing how three local families navigated how families haveing the sex talk with kids.

3 Local Families Share How they Navigate the Sex Talk

In parenthood, it’s so helpful to hear from other families on how moms navigate things like the going rate of the tooth fairy, how old kids first stayed home alone, and other fun questions that sometimes you just want to see if “everybody else” really is doing something like your tween/teen assure you they are. 

Today we’re sharing more about how three local families navigated having sex talks with their kids.

I have heard from others that if you have not talked to your kids about sex by the age of 8 or 9 they have probably already heard about it from someone else.

Our eldest son is now 9 and we are beginning to embark on this journey with him and have had some very basic talks with our 7 year old daughter regarding body parts & privacy.

I have talked to several moms regarding their approach and experiences. Again there is not a one size fits all manual but I definitely believe we are better together and can learn much from those who have gone before us and figure what works best for our families. 

We aren’t here to tell anybody what they should do, we’re just sharing what’s working for other families in our community, because sometimes it’s nice to have a gut check.

And, if you’re looking for inspiration to give you courage you need to confidently go into these conversations, here’s a helpful podcast episode that was encouraging to us: Work and Play with Nancy Ray episode 195, the birds and bees. 

XO,

East Valley Moms 

How families navigate honestly answering the questions about sex 

“When I was pregnant we approached it like a science project. We discussed the egg, sperm & ovaries. We talked about how daddy has sperm, mom has eggs and we put them together & the baby grows in mommies belly. ”  – Family S

“We had our first talk with our son when he was in first grade. He is a deep thinker and was starting to figure things out about animals mating & then asked about humans mating. So J (dad) took him on an overnight to a hotel and they had an awesome hangout time and talked more about sex & what the bible says about it.” -Family T

“We actually just did a part 2 sex talk with our son. Dad took him on another overnight and they talked about pornography & masturbation & things he is more ready to handle now that he is 12.” -Family L

How families determine age appropriate topics about sex   

“I wanted to talk to my kids before someone else and especially before they started talking about it with their peers. As soon as our child started asking questions, the conversation began. For us, our kiddo is pretty naive, so we felt like proper age appropriate education protected them from being misled.” – Family L

“For us, we wanted to control the narrative of sex talks before our twin boys were exposed to information from other sources (internet, peers, etc.). We started conversations when they were around 7 years old to be the first exposure to these topics with them, and two years later, I’m glad we did it that way.” -Family M

How families welcome questions from kids about sex

“My husband took the lead with the boys & I with my daughter. With the boys it was very important to make them feel like the thoughts they were having were not shameful. It is normal. They are so visual & stimulated easily. We helped them understand what was happening & how to navigate those feelings without it becoming a problem. B ( dad) would talk about understanding what it feels like to be a man, what thoughts & struggles they may experience.” – Family L

“For our family, my husband and I both addressed different topics with the kids. As a woman, I talked to my sons about honoring and respecting women in their actions. I talked to my daughter about how her body works, what to expect from sex and menstruation, etc. My husband talked to my daughter about what boys think when you say key phrases or dress a certain way.” – Family S

“Don’t be afraid of it. We make it weird or “bad” sometimes by our inability to communicate it.” – Family T

How families can keep the conversation going after the initial ‘sex talk’

“I just want them to feel like it is always up for discussion… that no topic is off limits. So if we are watching a movie that has a scene in it that brings up a conversation, we dive into it.”  – Family S

“I try to control my responses & facial expressions when my kids ask me something about sex. My mother in law advised me that if I react, they will hold back the next time.” – Family T

 

 

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