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Life in the Sober Lane

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So I have a secret. And it’s not a biggie. But I guess to some people it is. Drum roll please…I don’t drink. Ever. Like I’ve never ever had a drink. Am I religious? Nope. Did I used to be a huge drinker and gave it up for maturity reasons? Eh eh. Did I have a medical problem and decide against it? Negative. I just don’t drink. Now I’d love to tell you there is some philosophical, deep reason behind my decision to never partake in libations but the truth of the matter is, it really was never a conscious decision. The longer I went without trying alcohol, the less and less appealing it was for me and at some juncture it just became a moot point.

So, why if I am not judgmental toward those who DO drink are those same people judgmental toward me? Not sure. I have never been someone to care if others are drinking, even during my days at college. In Las Vegas. “But that must have been so challenging to not drink in Vegas,” some might say. No. In fact I never really gave it much thought. I was such a popular designated driver that no one seemed to care that I wasn’t joining in. It’s more so as an adult that I feel people are giving me the ole stink eye when I don’t order a margarita out at dinner, or grab a beer at a pool party. I’ve lost friendships over it. I believe relationships ended because of it. I even think people think I’m strange because of it. But I’m not. So let me debunk some misconceptions for you and break down my logic so I don’t have to be a closet “non- drinker” anymore.

1. Do you care if I drink in front of you? – Absolutely not. We’re all adults here, by all means, have a drink, have five. Not my place to say what’s right for you. I will gladly toast with you while sipping my iced tea.

2. Should I bring wine when I come to dinner at your house? – Please do. Or beer. My husband will love you for it.

3. Should I still invite you to a night out for drinks with other moms? – Yes! I will be so happy to not be wiping noses, faces or butts for a few hours, that I won’t mind having a cranberry juice while you have a drink.

4. How do you unwind at the end of the day without a drink? I mean, you’re with kids all day. – I am the first to understand why moms need a drink, but I do have other vices. Anyone tried the new Ben and Jerry’s core ice creams? Or cookie dough oreos topped with marshmallow fluff? Trust me, you are probably downing less calories than me, and not feeling as guilty afterwards. Oh, and watching the Bachelor. That helps too!

So seriously, don’t shy away from me because I don’t drink. I’m pretty cool still, I promise, and I am so loud and goofy most of the time that you won’t even notice I’m sober.

 

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4 Responses to Life in the Sober Lane

  1. Angela
    Angela October 20, 2014 at 1:55 pm #

    Love it Staci!!

    • Staci
      Staci October 20, 2014 at 6:22 pm #

      Thanks Ang!!! 🙂

  2. Esther November 22, 2014 at 9:55 pm #

    Staci – I love your Blog! You are beautiful and refreshingly authentic and there ARE people who absolutely don’t give a flipping hoot that you don’t drink. It amazes many of us that you would actually be judged for not consuming alcohol – how strange that anyone should have to experience such silliness – seriously? Considering all of the complex issues going on in the world today? Who has time to actually care what type of beverage a friend is consuming? I know this is only my opinion but those individuals must have some sort of subconscious internal struggle that they are dealing with. Many of us love your wit, humor, direct and positive approach to life and there are some very fortunate mothers who have had the great opportunity to see you in action – you are a vibrant, loving, supportive, very involved, intelligent woman and a fantastic Mother! Who by the way doesn’t drink alcohol – sounds like a perfect “cocktail” for success. XO. Esther

  3. Esther November 22, 2014 at 10:11 pm #

    Staci – I love your Blog! You are beautiful and refreshingly authentic and there ARE people who absolutely don’t give a flipping hoot that you don’t drink. It amazes many of us that you would actually be judged for not consuming alcohol – how strange that anyone should have to experience such silliness – seriously? Considering all of the complex issues going on in the world today? Who really cares what type of beverage a friend is consuming or not consuming. This is only my opinion but those individuals must have some sort of internal struggles they are dealing with. There are many very fortunate mothers who have had the great opportunity to see you in action – we love your wit and fantastic sense of humor, your direct and upbeat approach to life! You are a vibrant, loving, intelligent, supportive, very involved, fantastic Mother and human being! Who (by the way) just happens to not drink alcohol – sounds like a perfect “cocktail” for success. Cheers and Salude to you and all of the other amazing mommies out there! XO. Esther (Bella’s Mom from USA Youth Fitness Gymnastics) – we miss you and your precious Garrett!

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